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Everyone is born with certain talents. God has made everyone unique. When we start formal schooling, our inherent skills start coming to the fore. We slowly become aware of our uniqeness.

But family upbringing, environment around us, teachers, peers slowly start affecting us in various ways. The real challenge starts now! Will we recognize our talents and start honing them or will we fall prey to herd-mentality. By the time we finish matriculation there is extreme pressure from all sides with society, family, friends trying to shape our future. Do we follow our heart or succumb to outside forces?

What I want to bring out is the importance of powerful upbringing and empowered individualistic thinking. Either we are nurtured by a supportive family which goads us to do what we are meant to do, or we get gripped by an environment which doesn’t let us think clearly. In the latter case, the definition of success is taken to be the tick-marks of our life. It pertains to what the general society approves. Collection of ‘good’ degrees, married into a ‘good’ family, produced a child or two is the safest way out although the definition of ‘good’ varies.

If we study the autobiographies of the most successful people like Narayana Murthy, Amitabh Bachchan, M S Dhoni, Dr Abdul Kalam; we will realize that they were not in a race to get tick-marked. They followed their hearts and achieved starry heights. The easiest things to do today is get a degree, marry and produce kids. But if you want to be a cut above the rest, make sure you get your choice degrees, marry when you are thoroughly prepared mentally and produce kids when you are absolutely sure that you are wise enough.


I am 56 yrs old performing artist/trainer, Author and Life-Skills Coach. I am a postgraduate in English and a B.Ed. I help people transform their mindset to realize their full potential, be it Performing Arts or Life-Skills.

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